Help Please

[UFC-KING]

Hey Guys.

 

I really feel the people at GDS are very sympathetic to everybody on the forums, and can help people when they need it. Right now, I need help.

 

I've really been a nervous wreck for the past few months (Maybe since october) I've been able to keep it under control but in the past month It's really been getting worst, I'm getting mixed thoughts in my head, I've been feeling like I'm about to crumble and collapse. And it comes and goes which has really been what has been confusing me the most, so one hour I might be feeling perfectly alright, and then the next I'll just revert back. I've been having problems with the people around me lately, It might be that I'm over-stressed. It's really been depressing lately, and I don't really feel like myself.

 

I'm on medication currently which helps quite a bit, but I still revert every once or so a day.

 

Is there anything you guys think I should do about this, or help with the problems ? I really think you guys are sympathetic about problems like this and that Is why I'm coming to talk about it here.

 

Thank you,

 

KING

[AfRoMaN36]

Damn man, that really must suck for you. Though it seems to me like you are having anxiety attacks in relation to some sort of clinical depression. Which one exactly I'm not sure, but if you find yourself getting much more irritable as of late, especially under your cycles, you may have manic depression. I'm not sure though, but I've studied the illness as it's in my major, (nursing) plus you're describing symptoms which are strikingly similar to my now ex-girlfriend. Although I am no professional and just giving my 2 cents.

 

What I kept telling her though is to find a suitable med while weaning off of them with counseling. The meds won't solve the problem and are only temporary, but using them as a bandage until you find a source to you anxiety attacks will. As for what we can do is offer our full support man. This must feel very crippling.

[FINisher]

Been there, done that.. I actually spend most of the year 2007 on sick leave (?) so I may have something for you.

 

 

1. Change what you can change and accept those things that you can't change.

 

You should think what has caused this? Something has changed in your life? If that one thing is something that you can't do anything about, focus on the thought that there really is nothing you can do about it. There's many things like that in life.. Don't worry about those things that you can't do anything. Accept those so that you don't bother about them.

 

Instead focus on the things you can change! If there's some problems like that going on right now in your life. Grab yourself from the neck and go for it. If you can't, then wait. If you have wanted to start something, do it. If there's a place you would like to visit. It doesn't have to be big, little things apply in this also. Anything that you want.

 

 

2. Give yourself time.

 

Start a new hobby for example, or focus on the existing ones. If you don't do any sports related hobbys, start walking, running, hiking, whatever. Fresh air and exercise are not only for physical health, they help you mentally aswell. I started playing guitar and gave the old hobby, photography, a lot more time when I felt depressed. And in the long run they really helped me, especially the guitarplaying. I actually bought over 300€ priced guitar (never ever played before, lol!) but I can play it nowadays really good considering that I've only played it a year and no one ever helped me in learning.

 

 

3. Rely on your friends.

 

Everyone has atleast one friend. I actually have just one that I could call a friend in real life, everyone else are scattered around Finland on the internet (except my girlfriend). If it's something relationship-related: There's plenty of fish in the water. When talking to your friends about this, you will surely hear a lot of cliches!

 

"Everything's gonna be alright.. ..It'll get better.. etc. etc."

 

What else.. .. Everybody hurts sometimes. Everybody. More and more people are getting depressed in this world, and it's no wonder. Don't rely on the medication too much: They did not work for me atleast. Tried two different ones, the first one gave me impotence and the lack of ejaculation It was horrible! The worst time I've had in my life!!

 

The second one made me really numb, mentally. I did not feel anger, depression or hatred, but I didn't feel happiness. I didn't feel anything. It was like living in a fog.. It's weird what those pills can do to you. How long have you had that medication? There's always the tricky starting period when the medication starts.

 

I hope these tips could help, but these were kind of suggestions since I (we here) don't know what is really bothering you. You don't have to tell us exactly if you don't want to, I for one am not asking for it or trying to be inquisitive about this.

 

 

All in all: Focus on yourself. Do what you want to do. Give yourself time.

[infinitywpi]

Tell your doctor. Seriously, they know a lot more than one expects.

 

It's possible this is a form of manic-depression, and your meds are only treating one side of it; the other side is still hitting. Your doctor can look at your medication and suggest either another one to add to it, or a replacement. Or, it's possible that you need two doses; one for all-day maintenance and one for on-the-spot bumps when you start getting hit with the depression.

 

And not all meds are created equal. I've tried two that my wife was on (Note: InfinityWPI nor the Coastal Zone advocate the taking of drugs you were not actually prescribed) and they... well, let's just say they didn't have the same effect on me that they did on her. Describe how what your on feels to your doctor, and they can find something better suited to you (For instance, my wife was put on something that basicly made her feel like a zombie; she got put on something much better for her when she explained to the doctor that she still had 'those nagging voices' in the back of her head... he switched her from anti-depression to anti-anxiety and it works much, much better. Me, it turns out that those little nagging voices were reminding me to stay sane, and making 'em be quiet made for an interesting weekend...).

 

But, yeah, dude, doctor. Anything involving medication, talk to the doc. While the other posters have made some good points, there's one that I'll argue with: Don't buy the 'wean yourself off the meds once you deal with the problem' theory (Sorry, Afro, Fin). Some of us really -are- wired oddly, and no amount of therapy, self-help, or affirmation will get our brains working the same way everyone else's does. We either cope with the non-average chemicals in our brains, or we take meds for life. Some of us are happier one way, some others. It's nothing to be embarassed or upset about.

[FINisher]

And not all meds are created equal. I've tried two that my wife was on (Note: InfinityWPI nor the Coastal Zone advocate the taking of drugs you were not actually prescribed) and they... well, let's just say they didn't have the same effect on me that they did on her.

 

 

 

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But yeah everyone is different.

[infinitywpi]

Hey, those were Ambien prescribed for sleeping problems on a take-as-needed basis, that's completely different...

[tjb000]

Yeah, I definitely agree you should go back to the doc and get better advice. I'm not saying we're not good at giving advice, but we're doctors after all.

 

I would think you're having anxiety myself obviously with a side order of depression. It's been mentioned already though.

 

I suffer from severe depression and major anxiety (that's what my medical record said after my evaluation), and now with some bi-polar. It's so bad it's preventing me from working. I NEED to get re-evaluated, but I can't afford any doctor visit because I don't have any insurance.

 

If you can afford it or have insurance, I would definitely go to the doctor if you haven't already (you probably have since you're on medication). Maybe they can try a different med on you that could work better than what you're on.

 

I hope you get better. It's rough, but try to stay positive. I guess I'm not telling you anything you don't already know.

 

[UFC-KING]

Lucklily one of my family members is psychologist and I I'm going to go talk to him, thanks for the kind words guys

[MattitudeV2]

Hey Guys.

 

I really feel the people at GDS are very sympathetic to everybody on the forums, and can help people when they need it. Right now, I need help.

 

I've really been a nervous wreck for the past few months (Maybe since october) I've been able to keep it under control but in the past month It's really been getting worst, I'm getting mixed thoughts in my head, I've been feeling like I'm about to crumble and collapse. And it comes and goes which has really been what has been confusing me the most, so one hour I might be feeling perfectly alright, and then the next I'll just revert back. I've been having problems with the people around me lately, It might be that I'm over-stressed. It's really been depressing lately, and I don't really feel like myself.

 

I'm on medication currently which helps quite a bit, but I still revert every once or so a day.

 

Is there anything you guys think I should do about this, or help with the problems ? I really think you guys are sympathetic about problems like this and that Is why I'm coming to talk about it here.

 

Thank you,

 

KING

 

 

I feel you KING this has also hapened to me,mine was more of missing a major cornstone in my life(My Grandfather).By the way my mom and dad are seperated and he was the influencal to me.You probably see a Pyschatrist to get what your problem is and to solve it.

[AfRoMaN36]

While the other posters have made some good points, there's one that I'll argue with: Don't buy the 'wean yourself off the meds once you deal with the problem' theory (Sorry, Afro, Fin). Some of us really -are- wired oddly, and no amount of therapy, self-help, or affirmation will get our brains working the same way everyone else's does.

 

It's ones opinion vs another's. My philosophy is it's just a bandage and that their is a root to every psychological problem. Once that's solved, no need for pills. I've spoken with people on anti-depressants and they say it represses them from feeling anything and while they get mad on they inside, it doesn't show on the outside. I'm against permanently muffling someones emotions. I find that nearly inhumane.

[UFC-KING]

Alright, Little Update, I've been feeling much better lately, but I've got another issue to worry about, My cousin is in the hospital with 2 enflamed kidneys, and we aren't sure whats happening yet, so This will be the only update I will post for a bit

[Thomnipotent]

<p>It's going to sound ridiculous, but... music.</p><p>

I don't know what it is, but every once in a while a good, upbeat song can pull me out of a bit of a slump.</p><p>

Also, it's important to remember, at all times, that it's more important to be happy with who you are than to be happy with your life. I know, sounds ridiculous too... but external happiness is fickle, you have very little control over it... same with external misery. And it's a very human thing to attribute external circumstance to people, sometimes one's self, even when external circumstance has nothing to do with anyone. Focus on yourself; if you're not happy with yourself, focus on improving yourself. Even if you are relatively happy with yourself, find the things you'd like to improve on and work on them. If anyone ever tells you he's satisfied, he's either lying or he's given up. It's also very human to continue to strive for things.</p><p>

But really... I'm no poster boy for placing emphasis on internal happiness, but I try. And it helps. Even when things start falling apart (I had the worst twenty minutes today, but I won't get into it), I can always manage to find the humour in the situation by removing myself from it. And, of course, adopting the mantra that 'bad things do indeed happen to good people, but it's more important and fulfilling to be a good person than a lucky person.'</p><p>

I guess, just... keep your head up. Find pleasure in the small things and have the heart to laugh in the face of the worst things imaginable. When applicable, of course.</p>