The Loneliness is Killing Me

[franticloser]

Yes I did start this thread quoting a terrible Britney Spears song, I don't know why I can't stand her music, but the song title fit the topic.

 

 

We are no going on months of shelter in place/isolation/quarantine. I am sure I am not the only starting to feel severely lonely and desperate for social interaction of some sort beyond what you have already. For me my work as a dispatcher for a private ambulance company is essential so I do work three-four days a week from 8 PM-8 AM PST. I live with my best friend, and see my parents a few times a week. But even with that I am starting to feel really lonely. Which is weird as an introvert I don't tend to desire social interactions of most kinds, but I really find myself craving it now.

 

 

So, hence the reason for this thread. I thought maybe we can post a little blurb about ourselves on a level we are comfortable revealing and if we are open to having people pm us for conversation? If this is against forum rules sorry, I don't think it is in any sort of violation so hopefully it is okay.

 

 

I will start:

I started this profile in June of 2008 when I first bough TEW 2007, I have followed Adam Ryland since EWD, and that brought me here. Back then I was still identifying as a boy, having been raised as a pastor's kid it took me until the last couple of years to embrace that I am trans and start my process to become who I am for reals. Aside from that I am currently in a culinary program for an associate's degree but am going to switch focus to film theory starting over the summer. I want to finish out a certificate in culinary and go on to get a double major bachelor degree in film and education. So after I am done, I can open my own restaurant, make documentaries on a variety of subjects and teach film, culinary, and music history. I also identify as a Christian Anarchist (long or short story of what that means can be talked about if you have questions) I love reading mainly autobiographies of musicians and wrestlers. I trained at Supreme Pro Wrestling by Timothy Thatcher (so proud of seeing him in NXT!) I am a drummer, and am a life long student of wrestling, past, present, and future. If you want to chat sometime about anything and everything feel free to PM me! I like to think I am a good listener and usually can find some sort of advice if needed.

 

 

Also I set up a Discord here for anyone who just needs a place to chat about anything, escape, and have some positive interactions.

[Blake Trask]

<p>Really nice idea for a thread, thank you for sharing.</p><p> </p><p>

I'm not sure how I never recognised what your avatar was. I think I might need to have my queer card revoked.</p><p> </p><p>

Can really understand how it can be difficult. A lot of my close friends live in other countries and it will be hard for me to see them in person any time soon (I'd been making a yearly thing of flying out).</p><p> </p><p>

Cool to hear you had wrestling training! One of aforementioned close friends is training at Portsmouth's school of wrestling and I'd like to give it a shot sometime. Was planning on it this year but current situation has made it challenging. : P</p>

[franticloser]

Be prepared for two things, a lot of pain and having difficulty watching wrestling the same after. It is like learning about visual effects and trying to watch a movie again. You Can't Put the Magic Back in the Box!

[FINisher]

You Can't Put the Magic Back in the Box!

 

That's how I feel about games and movies most of the time. You can see where the storyline in a movie is clearly going and try to suppress thinking ahead as best as you can but..

 

On the topic of being quaranteed etc., I've now been at home with full pay from my job for two months now, we only had to do a month's worth of tutorials and you know, education from home etc. and now I'm spending away my summer vacation weeks. Next month it's either going back to work as normal or being furloughed which I really wouldn't even mind. I belong to a risk group so I really don't like going outside at the moment, even though my country hasn't been hit by the thingy so bad as others. There's almost as many confirmed cases world wide as there's population in Finland so.. Social distancing is the norm for us and there's not much population density also.

 

Living with my gf for years now and I'm quite introverted, even to the point that I'm dead serious about my ability to be alone for very lengthy periods of time without any drawbacks. When I lived alone I've had periods of several days, almost a week where I didn't say a single word to anyone But yeah, these past few months have been incredible, one of the best times of my life, and I know it's very different from other people's experience. I've been keeping quiet about it since I know how hard this is for some people but for me, it's been amazing.

 

My gf's is a lot more social though so I've had to push past my boundaries and trying my best to keep her company but I still need and enjoy my own time especially at nights.

 

What a weird time we live in.

[Arber]

I'm always up for a chat with anyone that needs it. I'm a big advocate of looking after mental health.

 

I moved away from all my friends about four years ago. If I'm honest, we started to drift away into our own bubbles anyway as we settled down and started families, etc. and we still talk almost daily via WhatsApp groups and what not, but its easy to miss them and feel lonely. I moved away to be closer to my parents, though, so at least I have that - and it means my kids (7YO and 4YO) have a great relationship with their grandparents. And we moved to the Lincolnshire coast in the UK, so we are literally a 3 minute walk away from a beautiful golden beach. Life isn't all bad.

 

I've suffered bouts of depression in the past, and my dad suffers from sever bouts. I believe looking after your mental health should be a priority of everyone.

 

I've been with this forum since 2005, but I lost access to my old account some time ago (RayW1986) so just decided to start fresh. Been playing the EW games since they were written in PascalTurbo. I've been around long enough to have enjoyed both the WWF vs WCW war and the EW vs PW war

 

Anyone ever need a chat, send me a PM. I can't promise I'll get back to you in a timely manner, but I will get back to you eventually. Stay safe everyone.

[Irish Wolf]

<p>Thanks for sharing folks. So I guess I'll share a bit about me.</p><p> </p><p>

I'm a big nerd from NYC. I have published 3rd party content for the pathfinder roleplaying game. I am also a professional wrestler. I've been in the business for about 12 years now trained by The Unpredictable Johnny Rodz. I started late when I was 31 so I'm 43 now and still doing it. I actually had a partial knee replacement last year - childhood injury non-wrestling related - and this year wwas supposed to be my big comeback. New tights,new mask, new t-shirts. But the pandemic has stopped that cold.</p><p> </p><p>

I've been on the boards since TEW 2005 and was a lot more active a few years ago. My day job at UPS sucks up a lot of my time and will to do fun things. But TEW2020 has renewed my presence here on the boards.</p><p> </p><p>

I actually find it hard to proffer a lot of information about myself. I'm much better at answering questions. I do understand the importance that connections bring to mental health and I've always been a pretty approachable dude so anyone is free to contact me for any reason.</p>

[Imarevenant]

<blockquote data-ipsquote="" class="ipsQuote" data-ipsquote-username="FINisher" data-cite="FINisher" data-ipsquote-contentapp="forums" data-ipsquote-contenttype="forums" data-ipsquote-contentid="49848" data-ipsquote-contentclass="forums_Topic"><div><p> Living with my gf for years now and I'm quite introverted, even to the point that I'm dead serious about my ability to be alone for very lengthy periods of time without any drawbacks. When I lived alone I've had periods of several days, almost a week where I didn't say a single word to anyone <img alt=":D" data-src="//content.invisioncic.com/g322608/emoticons/biggrin.png.929299b4c121f473b0026f3d6e74d189.png" src="<___base_url___>/applications/core/interface/js/spacer.png" /><strong>But yeah, these past few months have been incredible, one of the best times of my life</strong>, and I know it's very different from other people's experience. I've been keeping quiet about it since I know how hard this is for some people but for me, it's been amazing. <img alt=":o" data-src="//content.invisioncic.com/g322608/emoticons/redface.png.900245280682ef18c5d82399a93c5827.png" src="<___base_url___>/applications/core/interface/js/spacer.png" /></p></div></blockquote><p> </p><p> I knew I wasn't the only one who could say this. I myself am extremely introverted as well and, being completely honest, I'm pretty socially awkward too. I'm married with kids, all of whom are extroverts, my wife being the complete opposite of myself in that regard. Needless to say our schedule is usually filled with various activities and social engagements where I'm expected to at least make small talk with people. I hate it, but when everyone else goes to sleep I get my time to decompress and the solitude I quite frankly need everyday. </p><p> </p><p> Anyway, the fact that we have no expectations to be out with people has been such a freeing experience for me. I've never been more comfortable in my life. It feels nice to actually admit this tbh, and I know it's a bit selfish to be enjoying this so much as the kids are missing out on their activities and having their own difficulties being separated from their friends. So, I have not let on just how easily I'm handling this. </p><p> </p><p> I've also slowly been watching this whole situation break my wife down. She needs social interaction just as much as I need a period of solitude each day; so it has been a nightmare for her. I've just been supporting her and doing a lot of driving around to find new hiking trails and beaches to visit to at least satisfy her need for travel and exploration. And I make sure I don't cringe when she she starts making plans for all the things we are going to do once this is over, (so. many. plans.) lol.</p>

[The Swanton825]

The whole quarantine/lockdown/new normal/whatever we're calling it this week has been a double-edged sword for me. On the one hand I love staying home with my family and having no reason to go out for anything, but on the other I feel it's just encouraging my laziness. I'm going to be 26 this year and it's like I can't find anything that gives me purpose. I tried and failed to be a wrestler, even had the luck of being taught at Ricky Morton's school, but the luck went to my head, I started mistaking egotism for confidence and I blew my opportunities thanks to my suddenly inflated ego (I'm sure there's several people on these boards who can talk about me acting like a douche). I regret how I acted so much and I want to give wrestling another shot but I'm afraid I'll just regress to how I acted before. I can't even motivate myself to exercise because it all seems so pointless. I'll either slack off at a key moment or I'll turn into an idiot with delusions of grandeur.

[franticloser]

Hey Swanton, I recommend really taking stock into the things that drive you. A good quote I heard once is. "Your passion is what makes you angry not happy. What makes you happy can change, but what makes you angry doesn't." So essentially find things about the world that make you angry and find a way to do something that will help change them.

[The Swanton825]

Hey Swanton, I recommend really taking stock into the things that drive you. A good quote I heard once is. "Your passion is what makes you angry not happy. What makes you happy can change, but what makes you angry doesn't." So essentially find things about the world that make you angry and find a way to do something that will help change them.

 

I hadn't thought to approach it that way before. I've been spinning my wheels for a long time trying to find the "perfect thing" that made me happy, but that quote is making me reexamine how I've been thinking. Thank you!

[franticloser]

Hey guys, I didn't realize the Discord link expired, I updated it with a never ending one, so please come join the hangout and enjoy the interaction <img alt="" data-src="//content.invisioncic.com/g322608/emoticons/smile.png.142cfa0a1cd2925c0463c1d00f499df2.png" src="<___base_url___>/applications/core/interface/js/spacer.png" />

[milamber]

I regret not posting in this thread earlier in light of Hana's death.

 

I'm an introvert and prefer my own company but we all get lonely at times. I've always enjoyed chatting, debating and sometimes arguing about wrestling on this forum and others. Without this engagement I'd feel lonely more often and my interest in wrestling might have waned years ago. Instead I've opened myself up to new stuff like STARDOM, TJPW, New Japan and AEW.

 

I always try to choose my words carefully when critiquing shows and conversing... but nothing beats face-to-face when it comes to the subtleties of communication. We have to more careful. Hang in there everyone and be pleasant and respectful to everyone online and IRL.

[franticloser]

Thanks Mil, what happened is just a needless tragedy. I don't know how to wrap my head around it, I barely got out what I did in the thread you started. I'm around if you ever want to chat, be it wrestling or nonwrestling related.

[jackmortain]

On 5/20/2020 at 1:55 AM, Arber said:

I moved away from all my friends about four years ago. If I'm honest, we started to drift away into our own bubbles anyway as we settled down and started families, etc. and we still talk almost daily via WhatsApp groups and what not, but its easy to miss them and feel lonely. I moved away to be closer to my parents, though, so at least I have that - and it means my kids (7YO and 4YO) have a great relationship with their grandparents. And we moved to the Lincolnshire coast in the UK, so we are literally a 3 minute walk away from a beautiful golden beach. Life isn't all bad.

 

I don't mean to criticize about someone or something, please consider it as my opinion/thought

I think since we got Phone's and social media platforms we get to much engage with them which is why we don't have time to spend with friends by physically.

Like we do before going outside having some fun with friends etc...